A man is accused of trying to “take over” a bedroom while his pre-teen niece is in an eating disorder recovery center.
A Reddit user was thrilled to learn that a 26-year-old man who lives rent-free with his sister wants to move into his 11-year-old niece’s room.
Post shared on Reddit Am I the A******? (AITA) forum he received over 6,000 upvotes and over 500 comments on Sept. 6, with one user describing the situation as a “hostile takeover.”
Rise of multigenerational households
According to the Pew Research Center, the number of Americans living in extended-family or multigenerational households has increased over the past two years due to the impact of the pandemic and economic downtown.
Multi-generational households have quadrupled since 1971, and even before COVID-19, this number was on the rise. Multigenerational households became more common during the 2007 recession and have steadily increased since.
Two reasons for the surge in young adults choosing to delay marriage and pursue higher education are two reasons, as are financial and caregiving responsibilities. The likelihood of living in a multigenerational household varies by age, race, cultural background, and location.
This arrangement can provide economic advantages when multi-generational households pool resources. Families with multiple members of society under one roof are less likely to fall into poverty, and this type of living situation can provide a net of safety during difficult times.
In 2020, more than half of young people in the United States were living with their parents. This figure has not been seen since the Great Depression. However, 14% lived in another relative’s house, such as a grandparent or sibling.
In her post, u/Icy_Tea2573 explained that her 26-year-old brother is living rent-free with her and her 11-year-old daughter.
“He can afford to stay in an apartment with a roommate, but has social anxiety and chooses not to,” he wrote.
“He stays in a moderately sized room, but my daughter has a larger room with a bathroom.”
Her daughter was recently diagnosed with an eating disorder and will be staying in a home recovery program for the next three months. Her mother was “horrified” when her brother asked if she could stay in her child’s room during that time.
“I couldn’t let my brother rent for free while my sick daughter was recovering from an eating disorder,” he said.
“Later that day, I told him I would have to move out eventually. He was really mad at me.
Redditors agreed that the mother is not a***** in this situation, and unled_horse described the siblings’ approach as a “hostile takeover.”
“I want that man out of my house too,” she said.
“What kind of AH cares more about what room he stays in than his niece’s health?” asked Natural_writer9701.
“Imagine her coming home after this great trauma and discovering that her personal space has been violated,” a-_rose wrote.
Others suggested the brother get help for his own mental health issues, with Kathryn Lena describing his behavior as a “red flag.”
“Not only did he think he had the right to rent someone else’s room ‘because she wasn’t using it’, he thought he would live rent-free in someone else’s house.[checks notes]…forever (!!!) is just a whole parade of red flags,” she said.
“My niece is getting therapy for her problem. My brother should get therapy for him,” added lizyouwerebeer.
“If he’s not working on himself the moment you ask him to leave, he won’t be ‘ready’ yet.
Newsweek I asked u/Icy_Tea2573 for comment. Details of the incident could not be confirmed.
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